My Observations of Life

Two roads diverged in a wood, and I— I took the one less traveled by, And that has made all the difference. What has been the aim of life of most people in my generation? There was a well-defined path in the career front paved by people who were older and we had to t ake the same. The reasons being:     1) It lead to a safe life style, a proven one with less chances to falter.     2) We were unaware of any other path or had very less knowledge to boldly venture into        one.     3) Our parents were afraid that if we do not take the used path, we may end screwing up        our lives.     4) Parents did not have the time or money to support our dreams.     5) Parents were unsure of how a job like musician or writer or instrumentalist could help          make a living.      What has our path been (at least to most of us)? We had to score h...

What happens when a girl who does not want to grow up, who does not want to get into the "adult world" (as she calls it) has to go through events like marriage and child birth? What happens if she gets called "Aunty" by other kids when within herself, she is not even mature enough to be a wife? What happens if a girl wonders at the task given to her at office - "how do they trust me with such a big responsibility?", what happens if a girl does not realize how old she is and what her responsibilities are and wonder at others of her age who act like "big" people? Have you ever heard of a girl who wonders what her own personality is when she is just about 30 years old and feels lost? Heard of a girl who is in search of who she actually is and where she lost her identity in life? Known anyone who always attributed herself with people who she is related to and not build up a character of her own? Have you been friends with a girl for whom recogni...

Thank you Mr J for your statement - "Don't blame your child, you are lazy" (the man in my life is sitting behind me, reading as I type and says - "Idhu ennamo unmai dhan" - This is true :D ) - it woke me up early today and made me write this post. It is so wonderful how the mind works, going from one thought to another requiring a simple connection between the two. An example follows. I saw a girl who was crossing a part of the road between two volvo buses that are very close to each other, back to front. She is also on a call with someone. I wonder how is she able to do that without any fear, I would not. May be she trusts herself that she will be able to quickly move away if required. May be she trusts the driving skills of the volvo bus driver. As I think of this, the thought of my "Things to accomplish in this year" comes to my mind. One of them being "Learn to drive a car". As I think of learning to drive a car, I see how congested ...

I have been wanting to write something "mommie" on my blog for sometime now. I was considering a series on "Why I won't become a mom for the second time"!! Somehow it just doesn't click.  Then today, I happened to read several articles and blogs on mommyhood ranging from grief of losing a child to what a mom wanted to tell her daughter who planned to "have a family". Then it struck me. This is what I had been dying to write about, what a mom should tell a daughter who is planning to expand her family.  A dear friend of mine kept asking a question on several occasions of my life ranging from the time we were planning to have a child to a few months after the baby was born. The question seemed to be a very normal one for me every time it was asked. However, now I realize how powerful a question it is. I realize that if I would have come up with a better answer for it, I might have reversed my decision of having a child or at least postponed the e...

Oh Yeah, I happened to open my blog after ages. I read a few of my older posts.  I am in awe!  Okay, I know, it is too much to awe at one's own self. Still, that is the damn fact, am in awe.  I am surprised at the various topics I have written about.  I am wondering at the language used.  I even doubt if it is the same me who wrote all those posts.  Can I write something equivalent to those posts? I doubt. Can I use the same language even now? I doubt. Can I get so many topics to write on? I doubt. Can I think of so many things? I doubt.  Do I even have the knowledge of such varied topics? I doubt. Yes, I am not the same me. This is my conclusion after a visit to my blog. Is it inability? inefficiency? disinterest? laziness? Am not sure. But there was a burning urge to open my blog and read my posts and that left me with so many thoughts. I also had a burning urge to write something and that led (you know what? I was thinking, "wha...

எல்லா இடத்துலயும் தமிழ்ல பேசலாம்ங்கற ஒரு விஷயமே தமிழ்நாட்டுக்கு ஷிப்ட் ஆகுறதுக்கான பெரிய அட்ராக்ஷனா இருக்கு (அட்லீஸ்ட் எனக்கு). பெங்களூர்ல இருந்து பஸ்ல தமிழ்நாட்டுக்கு வரும் போது, ஹோசூரைத் தொடுரப்பவே தமிழ்ல இருக்கிற கடை பெயர்கள், விளம்பர போர்ட்கள், TN ரெஜிஸ்ட்ரேஷன் வண்டிகள்ன்னு எல்லாத்தையும் பாக்கப் பாக்க அவ்வளோ சந்தோஷமா இருக்கும். :) ஆட்டோகாரர்ல இருந்து ஹோட்டல்காரர் வரை, பஸ் கண்டக்டர்ல இருந்து போஸ்ட்மேன் வரை, சின்ன டீ கடைல இருந்து ஷாப்பிங் மால்ஸ் வரை இருக்கிற எல்லார் கிட்டயும் தமிழ்ல பேசலாம்ங்கறது எவ்வளோ சந்தோஷமான விஷயம்னு தமிழ்நாட்டுல இருந்து வேலைக்காகவோ, படிப்புக்காகவோ, வேற எதுக்காகவோ வெளி ஊர்களுக்கு போய் வாழுரவங்களுக்கு மட்டுமே புரியும். :) சில சமயம் யோசிச்சுப் பாத்தா, இந்த சின்ன சந்தோஷம் (அக்சுவலா பெரிய்ய்ய சந்தோஷம்) எங்கள மாதிரி இருக்குறவங்களுக்கு மட்டுமே (கொஞ்ச நாட்களுக்கு) கெடைக்கற போதைன்னு கூட சொல்லலாம். சின்ன வயசுல எல்லாம் மதுரை மட்டுமே எங்க ஊருன்னு, அங்க இருக்கிறது மட்...

How is that whatever celebrities do, ppl accept but whenever common ppl do the same thing, the same ppl make fun. If a celebrity updates a facebook / twitter status saying the traffic is like hell / the movie so far is good, ppl appreciate / support it like as if they have started a revolution. The same updates if a common person like me / you do, is criticized and made fun by friends and others. HUH. What is so special in those ppl that we don’t have? They are also human beings. They have got a talent and a common person has also got a talent that is a bit different. If the celebrity can sing / act / compere well, then common person like me / you can code / test / manage / cook / drive / calculate / audit / do something or the other well. The only difference is that they have many people who adore them. Most of them are unknown. Me / you too have ppl who adore us. We know most of them. Ppl we know only make fun of us. When the celebrities and we, both, have “talent”, why is that ppl...